Meeting Adjourned

We met with Jen (birthmom) today for the first time.  I wasn’t nervous at all, except for about a half an hour before we got there, and then only a little nervous.  It was nice, having one adoption under our belt, knowing kind of what to expect.  I think Jen was pretty nervous at first but she opened up some as the meeting went on.  She’s pretty shy and quiet, but very sweet.  She has the most beautiful eyes and smile.  Her mom came with her to meet us and it was really nice to get to know her too.  We’re really excited to get to know both of them better over the next month and then more over the next 18 years or so, too.  Jen said that she was okay with us picking a name – something I’m super excited about.  We have a middle name picked and have it narrowed down to two first names and she liked both of them, so yay!  Now we just have to chose one!  She also said that she would like us to be as involved with the hospital process as much as we want and asked me to be in the room with her when she delivers.  I’m really excited that she wants me to be there.  I want to meet this little guy as soon as I can!

When John and I started researching adoption, openness in adoptions seemed so intimidating and scary.  You (somewhat selfishly) think you don’t want to have to commit keeping in touch and possibly meeting with some strange woman for the next 18 years, but the truth is she’s not some strange woman.  She is your precious child’s birthmom and you end up loving her, because you and she – you dearly love the same baby.  You end up waking up at night worrying about her, wondering if she’s okay.  You end up in some weird way wanting to ‘mother’ her.  I wish I could somehow tell other potential adoptive parents how much you end up loving the fact that you know your baby’s birthmom.  It’s not scary, it’s not inconvenient, it’s a blessing.  I am so grateful to have the privilege of knowing my son’s birthmoms.

So anyway, thank you everyone for your prayers today.  I know they helped!  Both John and I felt like things really went smooth and we’re excited to hopefully meet with Jen again soon.  Please keep praying for her too, her family has not been very supportive (other than her mom), and it’s been really hard on her.  Also she has some health issues that could make labor and delivery unsafe for her, so pray that the doctors will have wisdom in treating her.

 

~Katie